What A Guy Should Do When You Lose A Baby

I've been asked a few times what a husband should do when you lose a baby.  Unfortunately, my wife Krista and I have lost two babies still-born- Zoe in 2004, and Jonathan this past August.  Just like all the advice you get showered with regarding marriage and raising kids, I can't say what is right for you or a friend of yours dealing with this, especially in even worse situations where the baby is lost during or just after birth, but I can say this is what helped with me.  My wife Krista (www.HopeInTheWaiting.com) has written about this for women, and I thought I'd write down what might be helpful for guys.

I'd say the first thing is that